The bible states in Proverbs 4:7, "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding." There are many God ordained ways in which you can get wisdom such as: Receiving the Preached Word, Studying the Bible, Having a Spiritual Mentor, and going through things with a good attitude. Proverbs 2:2 says to "...apply thine heart to understanding," which simply means that God encourages us to seek understanding through the means most available such as; church services, trusting God etc. James 1:4 says "But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing."
However, when going through things, we can be challenged to see grace, good or God in it. If you are in such a position,
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